Thursday, April 21, 2011

...and now for something completely different

Shit Jenny Mccarthy didn't even tell you would happen during pregnancy and in it's aftermath...

This will be a new series here at Bare and will cover topics both humorous and serious. Stay Tuned

misconception of the definition of feminism

I have been traveling in cyberspace to other mommy blogs. I noticed a topic trend. It seems the collective "we" are a bit up in arms regarding children, toys, and gender roles.  I do no care to debate if one should allow princesses or baby dolls. I like toys and being a child should be about play. You should be free to choose your playthings without grown up worry of how it may psychologically damage you. Also, as a parent you should be free to guide your child however you see fit.

What I found troublesome was the "modern" perception of the definition of feminism. It seemed a common thread that to be a feminist was to believe that men and women are physically and mentally identical. Even a child knows that boys and girls are different. I'm pretty certain our fore-sisters had a more evolved thought process than a child.

Feminism is not the idea that we are all physiologically the same. It is the concept that we should all, men and women, have the same opportunities.  To put feminism in a tiny box that states it is so narrow minded as to claim men and women are identical, is to forget that women used to be second class citizens. We were not allowed to vote. We could not own property. We could not show our ankles, let alone put on our favorite sex and the city heels and go have a cocktail. Feminism is not about wanting to be a man. It's about civil liberties. We take those for granted. That may be because we don't live in a country where they cut off our clitoris to keep us in line. However, in the big picture it was not that long ago our husbands were allowed, legally, to beat us and we did "as we were told".

I have been a single working female most of my life. I was able to move freely through the world in that role because of the groundwork put down by feminists  I was also able to make the choice to marry my true love because of feminism. I didn't have to have a dowry thus making me valuable for marriage. Nor did I have to have an arranged marriage to help my lower class family climb up in social stature.

I was then able to make the conscious decision to become a stay at home mother because so many women (and men)before me fought for my right to make choices. I was not told when to marry. I was not told who to marry. I was not told when to breed. I did not become nonviable because I was past marrying and breeding age.

In the debate against gender roles, princesses , toys and how to raise children, feminsim is not the enemy.
Our fore sisters fought so that we could have public debates. They fought for our voice. Their aim was not to make us men, just as valued as men. If they hadn't we would all be writing these blogs under assumed male names like our ancestral female writers had to write their novels.

Below is a definition from the Wikipedia

Feminism is a collection of movements aimed at defining, establishing and defending equal political, economic, and social rights and equal opportunities for women.[1][2][3] Its concepts overlap with those of women's rights. Much of feminism deals specifically with the problems women face in overcoming social barriers, but some feminists argue that gender equality implies a necessary liberation of both men and women from traditional cultural roles, and look at the problems men face as well. Feminists—that is, persons practicing feminism—may be persons of either sex.
Feminist theory emerged from these feminist movements[4][5] and includes general theories and theories about the origins of inequality, and, in some cases, about the social construction of sex and gender, in a variety of disciplines. Feminist activists have campaigned for women's rights—such as in contract, property, and voting—while also promoting women's rights to bodily integrity and autonomy and reproductive rights. They have opposed domestic violence, sexual harassment, and sexual assault. In economics, they have advocated for workplace rights, including equal pay and opportunities for careers and to start businesses.

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Topless Tuesday : Come and join the fun

Ok time for audience participation! Play the game people!

  • If you were a comic strip character, who would you be and why? Snoopy - he has a rich inner world

  • What thought or message would you want to put in a fortune cookie? you just ate sea turtle in msg sauce

  • If you had to give up a favorite food, which would be the most difficult to give up? Coffee

  • What is one food you’d never want to taste again?  Spam or Powdered Milk it's a toss up

  • If you won a lottery ticket and had a million dollars, what would you do with it? Buy my house, pay for Ava's college, tell Daddy to quit his job!

  • You’ve been given access to a time machine.  Where and when would you travel to? I would travel back just a few years and stop the tragic death of my good friends brother

  • If you could be any superhero and have super powers, which one would you like to have and why? I am a superhero and my power is the power of crazy. If I have to be another superhero I choose hit girl and her wicked assassin skills

  • Mount Rushmore honors four U.S. presidents: Washington, Jefferson, Lincoln, and Roosevelt.  If you could add any person to Mount Rushmore, who would you add and why? Cheif Seattle - REPRESENT

  • What award would you love to win and for what achievement? #1 mom

  • If you could transport yourself anywhere instantly, where would you go and why? Las Vegas to see single R with the baby

  • In your opinion, which animal is the best (or most beautiful) and why? Cats - because they get me

  • What is one item that you really should throw away, but probably never will? I don't have any

  • Growing up, what were your favorite toys to play with as a child? My 1950's Barbie and Ken and my stuffed animals oh and I had a baby doll named Rose Marie I loved to death

Monday, April 18, 2011

Stash Hash Installment 5

As I continued my journey I de-evolved. I inched closer and closer to the old school prefolds. I started with a contour. This is like a prefold with the work removed. It has as the name suggests a contour shape so, no folding needed.  A cover is needed with a contour and either a snappi or pins.

wickedly awesome prefold
I was still terrified of prefolds. One day I was drooling over photos on goodmama's facebook page. There are two pictures of her youngest daughter in a prefold. Goodmama had gotten a really snug, adorable fit with a prefold. I was intrigued. First of all prefolds are about two dollars and fifty cents a piece. I could really start quenching my insatiable thirst for new diapers on the cheap. So, I ordered some. It took some practice and some patience. I have to admit prefolds are now (almost) my go to favorite. There is just something about the simple elegance of the white diaper with the serged edge. Not to mention I then get to explore the vast and adorable world of covers!

We'll take a look at some awesomely artful covers next stash hash and discuss the worlds most amazing laundry detergent RockinGreen!

*All products were purchased by the author. These are not solicited reviews. I'm just telling the tale of my cloth journey.

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Sunday, April 17, 2011

The Modern Housewives Guide To Multitasking

I needed a shower. The bra needed to be hand washed. I wore the bra in the shower.